Sunday, December 5, 2010

Prompt 5: Let Go

What (or whom) did you let go of this year?  Why?

I let go of a friendship this year.  I have a friend that I've known since I moved to Indiana.  We grew up together doing almost everything together - going to church, each other's birthday parties, and we were supposed to go to each other's weddings.

She got married a few months before I did.  My fiance and I went to their wedding, bought them a gift, and had a great time.  She and her husband RSVPed for our wedding but did not show up.  I figured something had come up and waited to hear from her.  (There were a few others who didn't make it to the wedding that I heard from within a few days.)  But I didn't hear from her.  For over a year.  She never contacted me to apologize for missing my wedding or acknowledge the fact that I got married.

I'll be the first to admit that I have a hard time letting go of friendships.  I am still friends with most of the people I've been friends with in my life.  I think I'm pretty good at keeping in contact, remembering their birthdays, and congratulating them when they have important events in their lives.  So I held onto hope for this friendship for a long time.  But I also realized that any continuance of the friendship would have to come from her so I didn't contact her, though I really wanted to.  We haven't talked in over a year and a half, and I have absolutely no reason why.

But I finally let/made myself let go of the friendship.  The way I did that was by acknowledging that there are some people who you are friends with for a certain period of time and then you aren't really friends with them after that.  And that's okay.  I don't dislike her in any way.  I'm simply confused by what happened and realized that I couldn't keep caring about someone who obviously showed that they didn't care about me.

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